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100% Accountability, Take Two

Living the Success Principles #2

I’m in the second or perhaps third week of working Principle 1 – Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life, and I admit, I am still stuck on the No Complaints rule.  This is somewhat embarrassing since I harp on this one with my clients.

What I’ve noticed is that I’ve stopped complaining out loud, for the most part.  I’ve replaced it with a form of blaming in my head and attached myself to inaction and unwillingness to provide negative feedback.  My payoff is martyrdom.  This is not a positive development.

Here’s an example.  Last week, one of my vendors did not deliver something as promised.  I waited.  I stressed.  At one point, I followed up.  And I waited.

I could have called and insisted that this work take priority.  I could have managed this more like I would have managed projects.  I could have instituted some carrots or sticks.  Instead, I mentally framed this as “That company never gets my work to me when they say they will, and I am doing them a great favor by continuing to give them my business.”  Poor sad me, who has to put up with crappy vendors.  Like I said, not a positive development, and it looks really dumb and weeny-ish in writing.

Now, on a more progressive note, I am super-honed in on complaining, blaming, denial, and negative energy when I see it, and I walk away as opposed to joining in.  When I can’t walk away, I put up my Star Trek shield to deflect the negative energy.    This is what Canfield calls recognizing “yellow alerts.”   The ability to recognize these things earlier gives us the opportunity to change our response, which then gives us a chance to impact the outcome in a more positive way.

In that vein, I am seriously considering unfriending the constant complainers on Facebook.   Thoughts?

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Carolann Jacobs

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